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The End of the Year is Upon Us!

Can you feel it? Can you smell it? I sure can it’s my favorite time of the year. ¡El otoño! Yes, Fall. It’s my favorite time of the year. ¡Los olores me encantan! My fav is cinnamon apple. So, you might be asking yourself oye, ¿qué tiene que ver el fin de año? Planning that’s what. Planning for what? Your goals for the rest of the year and the goals for next year as well. You don’t have to wait until el año nuevo to plan for next year. Get a head start now. 

Here is why the majority of New Year’s resolutions fail … we don’t actually plan for them. They are more like wishes. “I want to lose weight” “I want to buy a new car” “I want….”. Don’t get me wrong, those are all great things to work for but there is a strategy that needs to be in place. Let’s look at an effective way to plan for these goals. Let’s plan S.M.A.R.T goals. 

Specific: Any goal you have needs to be specific. You can’t just say my goal is to buy a new car. Make it specific. “I want to save for a down payment for a new car.” Which leads us to the M: Measurable.

Measurable: So now you have your specific goal. “I want to save for a down payment for a new car” How are you going to measure it. In this case, for example it can be a certain amount of money. “I want to save $XXXX to go towards the down payment for a new car by ___________ date. 

Attainable: Is your goal attainable. If you don’t have a job it’s not really an attainable goal to save money. Your goal would have to change. So, make sure you goal is doable.  

Realistic & Timely: Is it realistic and timely? Yes, a goal of saving $XXXX for a down payment on a new care is Specific, measurable, and attainable.  Realistic and timely? Can/will you put $XX money away to meet your goal, or will it be difficult. Timely can you really save $XXXX amount in 3 months or do you need to change it to 5 months. 

I hope this helps with planning your goals for the rest of the year and give you a head start in planning for next year. So, the question is what you can realistically accomplish by December or maybe it’s accomplishing a small goal that is part of a bigger goal. You can also break down big goals into smaller goals that are more manageable. Share your S.M.A.R.T goals with me on Instagram, @oyeletstalk.

Want to plan for 2020?!

I will be hosting a workshop for women to prepare for the new year. If you would like to learn how to plan effective goals for 2020 join me at the Women on a Mission 2020 workshop. Strategize with other goal oriented women to start this new decade with intent and a game plan. Click to go to event bright for tickets. Tickets are $60 and will be limited to 10 women only.

Workshop includes:

  • One hour presentation on how to set goals
  • Time to brain storm with other women on your goals for 2020
  • A chance to present and receive feedback
  • An opportunity to consult with Oye, Let’s Talk Host Marisol Salgado

Head over to listen to episode 3 of my podcast Oye, Let’s Talk: New Year, New Me? 

Posted in Español, Vida

Octubre es el mes de concientización contra la violencia doméstica

Octubre es el mes de concientización contra la violencia doméstica. En este mes observamos y damos luto a las víctimas de la violencia doméstica y también hablamos sobre la prevención de la violencia doméstica. Cuando yo me gradué de la universidad con mi licenciatura en psicología comencé a trabajar en un albergue para mujeres. Ahí aprendí mucho sobre que era la violencia doméstica. 

En el 2012 hubieron 114 mujeres que fueron asesinadas por sus parejas íntimas en el estado de Texas. Eso es 10% más que el total nacional de estados unidos. En el 2015 hubieron 158 mujeres asesinadas. 136 en el 2017 y 29 fueron asesinadas en Harris County.  Tenemos un grave problema en estado de Texas con la violencia doméstica y más en el condado de Harris donde yo vivo. Esos datos son asombrantes. 

Puedes hacer click aquí para escuchar el podcast donde habló de la violencia doméstica.

La violencia doméstica no son solo los golpes, es mucho más que eso. 

-Marisol Salgado

Abuso Fisico

Este es el más reconocido y en el primero que piensan cuando dicen violencia doméstica. Esto incluye golpes, puñetazos, mordeduras, estrangulamiento y otros daños físicos.   

Abuso Emocional/ Psicologico/ Verbal

No es el más reconocido, pero es el que, en mi opinión, siempre está presente. Esto incluye el uso de insultos, menosprecio, tratar a la víctima de loca, es posesivo, exigiendo saber donde estas a todo momento, humillarte o culparte por el abuso. 

Abuso Sexual

No importa si estas casada. Cuando dices que no quieres tener relaciones sexuales y eres obligada a tener relaciones sexuales es abuso sexual. No es tu “obligación de esposa” tener relaciones sexuales. Se le llama violación cuando una persona dice NO.

Ejemplos de abuso sexual son los siguientes: te forzó a ponerte ropa muy sexual, te llama cosas vulgares o te insulta mientras están teniendo relaciones sexuales, te obliga a tener sexo aunque te sientas mal o estés enferma, te trata de embarazar sin tu consentimiento, te trata de transmitir una enfermedad sexual, te obliga a ver pornografía o hacer actos sexuales que no quieres. 

Abuso Financiero 

No te deja trabajar, te da dinero y exige recibos de qué se gastó, te quita to cheque, no te deja saber información financiera o tener acceso a las cuentas de banco, saca tarjetas de crédito y usa todo el crédito para dañarte el crédito, o vivir en la casa y no contribuye a los gastos del hogar, . 

Esta no es una lista exhaustiva de los tipos de abuso ni son todos los ejemplos de los tipos de abuso. 

Los invito a escuchar el segundo episodio y que esta en español has clic aquí.

 Si tu o alguien que conoces necesita información o ayuda pueden contactar a la línea nacional de ayuda al 1−800−799−7233 están disponibles 24 horas del día 7 días de la semana. También tienen chat disponible en su sitio web https://espanol.thehotline.org/ y es para todo estados unidos. 

Si vives en Houston o sus alrededores puedes llamar a los siguientes números. Todas son líneas de ayuda disponibles los 7 días de la semana 24 horas al día. 

  • Houston Area Women’s Center
    (713) 528-2121
    Houston, TX
  • The Bridge Over Troubled Waters  
    713-473-2801
    Pasadena, TX 
  • Family Time 
    (281) 446-2615
    Humble, TX
  • Bay Area Turning Point 
    281-286-2525
    Webster, TX
  • Montgomery County Women’s Center
    936-441-7273
    Conroe, TX 

tcfv.org 
https://www.speakcdn.com/assets/2497/texas.pdf
https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/|
http://espanol.thehotline.org/wp-content/uploads/sites/4/2015/09/Poder-y-Control.pdf

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New Year, New Me?

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Do you really need to wait for it to be 2020 to start making changes? Oye, Let’s Talk about establishing SMART goals.

Register for the Women on a Mission 2020 event. Event will be limited to 10 participants. 

 

Follow me on across social media as @oyeletstalk on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and YouTube.

Want to support Oye, Let’s Talk Podcast? Head over to ko-fi.com/oyeletstalk

Want me to talk about a difficult topic email me at oyeletstalk@gmail.com

Visit the blog at oyeletstalk.com to find more information about today’s episode and to keep up with our events.

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Mes de Concientización Contra la Violencia Domestica

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Síguenos en las redes sociales como @oyeletstalk en Instagram, Twitter y Facebook.

Quieres que hable de algún tema difícil. Mándame un DM en Instagram o un correo electrónico a oyeletstalk@gmail.com

Quieres apoyar el podcast puedes donar un el costo de un cafecito hace clic aqui.  

Si tu o alguien que conoces necesita información o ayuda pueden contactar a la línea nacional de ayuda al 1−800−799−7233 están disponibles 24 horas del día 7 días de la semana. También tienen chat disponible en su sitio web https://espanol.thehotline.org/ y es para todo estados unidos. 

Si vives en Houston o sus alrededores puedes llamar a los siguientes números. Todos son líneas de ayuda disponibles los 7 días de la semana 24 horas al día. 

Houston Area Women’s Center 
(713) 528-2121
Houston, TX 

The Bridge Over Troubled Waters  
713-473-2801
Pasadena, TX 

Family Time 
(281) 446-2615
Humble, TX

Bay Area Turning Point 
281-286-2525
Webster, TX

Montgomery County Women’s Center
936-441-7273
Conroe, TX

What is VAWA (Violence Against Women Act)

https://www.americanimmigrationcouncil.org/research/violence-against-women-act-vawa-provides-protections-immigrant-women-and-victims-crime

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30, Latina, Sin Hijos, Y Sin Marido

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Welcome to the Oye, Let’s Talk Podcast!

We address the pressures of being a single Latina in her 30’s.

Considering therapy? Here are some great directories where you can find therapist of color.

Latinxtherapy.com and Melaninandmentalhealth.com

Follow me on across social media as @oyeletstalk on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and YouTube.

Want to support Oye, Let’s Talk Podcast? Head over to ko-fi.com/oyeletstalk

Want me to talk about a difficult topic email me at oyeletstalk@gmail.com

Visit the blog at oyeletstalk.com to find more information about today’s episode and to keep up with our events.

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Intro Episode to Oye, Let’s Talk Podcast

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Welcome to the Oye, Let’s Talk Podcast! 

Follow me on across social media as @oyeletstalk on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.

Want to support Oye, Let’s Talk Podcast? Head over to ko-fi.com/oyeletstalk

Want me to talk about a difficult topic email me at oyeletstalk@gmail.com

Visit the blog at oyeletstalk.com to find more information about today’s episode and to keep up with our events. 

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WELCOME! ¡Bienvenidos!

Oye, let’s talk! Welcome to my blog/podcast page. I am excited for you to join me on this journey as I dismantle taboo topics, open the doors for much needed and a veces hard conversations about life and mental health.

So, let me introduce myself. My name is Marisol Salgado, I am a proud Latina born into a lineage of some strong ass Chingona women. I live in the great state of Texas in hot and humid Houston. I am fully bilingual. Spanish is my first language. Quick question? Do all bilingual people have the same curse I do? My Spanish isn’t perfect and neither is my English. I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t, but I can Jajajaja and hahahahaha. 

How did Oye, Let’s Talk come up.

During the day I am a bilingual counselor with a private practice (I promise this is relevant). Growing up Latina I have noticed we have so so so many topics that are taboo or off limits to talk about. Yall the list is endless! This is where the idea for “Oye, Let’s Talk” came from. Tired of having topics that are off limits or just seeing/experiencing not knowing where to start the conversation. This is my personal opinion, Latinos do not know how to communicate effectively. Why do I think that? Well I have seen it in my family, friends, conocidos, and in my work. Now that I am a counselor there are no topics that are off limits for me to talk about. I have these hard and sometimes awkward conversations with my family, friends and conocidos. I want to say that I have learned the art of communication, am I the best? Of course not, but guess what I will open the door or sometimes kick it down if needed. 

Asking yourself what you can expect from the blog/podcast? It will be a mix of Spanish, English and my favorite Spanglish! I am very passionate about mental health and will provide information about mental health in Spanish and uno que otro episode in Spanish too. I will address and dive into why certain topics are taboo and why is it hard to have conversations about them. If you want to me to talk about a difficult topic email me at oyeletstalk@gmail.com or send me a DM on Instagram @OyeLetsTalk.

Last but not least information shared in this blog/podcast is not a substitute for seeking help from a licensed mental health professional and is not a substitute for psychological diagnosis. The information provided and any comments or opinions expressed are intended for general discussion and educational purposes only.

Posted in Life Phase, Vida

90’s Babies we are turning 30!

I am a proud Latina born into a lineage of some strong ass Chingona women.

— Marisol Salgado.

So, I turned 30 at the beginning of this year. Let me tell you it was hard. How hard you ask? How about extreme sadness boarding on depression sad. As a woman turning 30 hits differently. At least that is what I think. It started about a month before I turned 30. Saying it out loud “I’m 30” gives me an ick feeling.  It was just like a sense of impending doom. I could literally see my youth fade away. All I thought was here comes the decline of my youth (insert dramatic “cries in Spanish” meme).

Here’s the thing. No one in my family has experience turning 30 like I have. If you don’t already know I am a Latina through and through. All the generations of women before me were married and had kids at my age. My mom had 3 kids by the time she was 30, and I’m sure my grandmother had more than 3 by the age of 30 too. I am living a complete different 30’s. What do I do? I look around at my cousins and you know coming from a Mexican family I have plenty of cousins in the same age range. ALL with KIDS. Pressure to settle down, get married, be an adult? Maybe. Can I hear the tick of my biological clock? YES, and let me tell you it’s getting louder. Thirty, I still can’t wrap my head around it. 

Reflecting back on these past 9 months my 30’s have been amazing. A good friend told me 30’s are just like your 20’s but with money and they weren’t wrong. This year has been full of travel, setting and reaching goals, and last but not least, setting a foundation for the rest of this amazing decade ahead of me. Head over to listen to episode one of my podcast Oye, Let’s Talk: Thirty, Latina, Sin Hijos y Sin Marido. Where I speak more about why this can be a hard conversation to have with our family. 

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Sneak Peek

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I hope you are as excited as I am about Oye, Let’s Talk Podcast launching!

We are launching 4 episodes on October 26, 2019. 

Tune in I will also be going live on Instagram October 25, 2019 at 1PM to talk about Oye, Let’s Talk Podcast.

Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. Also check out and follow our blog to stay up to date with our up coming events.

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Oye, Let’s Talk is Coming

The podcast will be launching on October 25, 2019! That is in 17 days. I am so excited to be able to open the doors to much needed and a veces hard conversations that need to happen. If you would like to share with me some of the hard or taboo topics you have a hard time talking about find me on instagram as @oyeletstalk and send me a DM. Again I am so excited for you to be joining me on this new adventure.